As I mentioned in the last OOTD, the arrival of baby Spookshow is imminent! Mrs. Spookshow & I will be going into the hospital on Thursday morning to induce labor if it hasn't happened by then, so next week we should be home with the newest member of the Spookshow family. As such, in my next OOTD I will be a father. So, what do you think ... DadsBlackDress.com? All jokes aside, I think I'm ready for this. Famous last words, much? Haha, anyways, here's a photo of super pregnant Mrs. Spookshow for ya'll to enjoy before we really dig into this post!
We're just as in the dark as everyone else is about this baby's sex, and I'm not gonna lie, it's been really humorous to watch people try to deal with that. "How do we now what color stuff to get?" "Wait, if you don't know the gender why are you buying a dress?" Mrs. Spookshow's stock reply to most of those types of comments has been that skull print is appropriate for everyone, haha. We have bought some amazingly cute clothes for this kid that I'm really looking forward to showing off here, but don't worry, I promise I won't overdo it here on the blog. Mrs. Spookshow says she's really looking forward to being able to take a photo of me in a great dress with our child in a similar yet baby appropriate style for the blog, so you have that to look forward to.
Many. maaany people have asked me what I'm hoping for .. a boy or a girl? My usual response has been a girl, but only because it's perhaps a little less likely that I'll have to go try to throw a football to her in five inch heels than if we had a boy. That's purely a joke response, though, because obviously I don't put any stock into gender stereotypes in my life. I want our child to have the opportunity to be themselves and express themselves however they choose to, so ultimately our answer to the question of what we are hoping for is simply just ... a healthy baby. Secretly though, guys, I'm kinda actually hoping for a boy, and here's why ...
During this pregnancy, it was only natural that I'd do a bit of reading about princess boys. Given the nature of this blog and my general feelings on gender stereotypes, it was inevitable, right? It's been interesting reading what people think whether or not it's appropriate to let little boys wear dresses if they want to, but one comment I read really stuck out to me. Now, the comment in question was actually against letting little boys step outside the preconceived gender boxes, but the bit that stuck with me was this (paraphrased): "Well, if you are as okay with boys wearing dresses as you say you are, then why didn't you just put your son in a dress before he even asked?" CHALLENGE ACCEPTED!
Seriously though, this really struck a cord with me. How can I credibly stand for breaking down the gender stereotypes of our culture if I impose them on my own family? Fortunately, Mrs. Spookshow agreed with this and we decided that no clothing will be off limits for our child, and that until they can inform us of their own opinions of how they'd like to dress, we're going to dress them in any clothes that we like, regardless of gender boundaries. So yes, the skirts and dresses will be worn regardless of the sex of this child, and they will be insanely awesome and cute!
So yeah, I'm kinda hoping for a boy if only because it will be more interesting with regards to this blog, but ultimately I'm really just rooting for a happy, healthy child. I think that regardless of sex, this child is going to have a lot to teach me about social roles and gender boxes, and in turn I hope to be able to teach them about acceptance, confidence, and love. Even though it's sure to be difficult at times, I really think this is going to be a fun experience, and although the focus here on the blog will still remain on me and my fashion, I hope you guys will be interested in hearing about the little Spookshow and how they relate to my sartorial adventures here on His Black Dress!