Dress: Forever 21+
Tights: Hudson City via UKTights.com
Shoes: Madden Girl
Similar to my last OOTD, this is another one of those dresses that I'm usually a bit gun shy about, but pulled the trigger on due to Cyber Monday sales. As I've said here many times, I'm a totally sucker for color block, and lately I've really come to embrace the awesome of the color pink, so I just couldn't resist. I'll admit I've kinda been saving this dress for a bit, as I just really love it, but today is the day, ya'll!
I've talked a little bit about body positivity here on the blog, but I'd like to talk a little more about it here for clarity. You see, in the past I've shied away from body hugging dresses like this one, even though I've seen a lot of them that I've loved. We all have those areas that we'd like to improve, or aspects of our shape that we aren't happy with. For me, I sit pretty firmly in the apple shape department, and it's not something I'm particularly happy about, but it's what I have. I feel like I'm digressing on the point I wanted to make here, so I'm just going to get straight to it. Conventionally, there's a lot of folks who adhere to certain rules or guidelines are what you should or shouldn't wear based on your body shape, in an effort to wear things that are flattering. Well, I'm going to come right out and say that I usually find that term, flattering, to be just a nice way of saying less fat. That's bullshit.
Honestly, I don't want to take away from this OOTD with a rant about fashion rules, so to bring it back to this dress, I know I'm showing some visible belly line (VBL in net slang) here. Now, I could spend a lot of time obsessing over it, and trying to dress in things that hide or flatter (there's that word again) it, but what I've come to realize is that even if I do that ... it's still there. That's where body acceptance comes in, and it's all about accepting your flaws as well as your assets. So, instead of spending so much time worrying about what's flattering, I'll just be over here rocking the hell out of this fantastic dress, okay?
This blog is all about accepting yourself and finding the power to be who you want to be, despite opinions and preconceived notions of what you are "supposed" to be. In my mind, body acceptance is just as important in that mission as breaking gender stereotypes is. I don't consider myself a trendsetter or even a fashionista, I'm just a boy in a dress with a blog trying to inspire others with the confidence to be yourself in a world that often tries to tear that down. Sorry for derailing this OOTD a bit, but I needed to get that off my chest.
I wore this outfit to lunch today with Mrs. Spookshow and some friends of ours. Occasionally, I receive emails or comments asking about the reactions I get in public dressed like this, or more pointedly assuming that I must be brave for wearing this and no doubt facing a sea of negativity. I sometimes worry that the folks who send me those messages must read a lot into my posts when I don't talk about any experiences in public, but the truth is that I always write about any events of note. I know you might think that surely a man wearing something as bold (for lack of a better word) and in your face against the gender stereotypes of our society would face a soul-crushing amount of adversity or negativity should he dare to leave his home in it, but in my experience that hasn't been the case. I could (and probably should) write a post specifically about this topic, so I'll just say here to not assuming I face negativity unless I post about it. Absolutely nothing negative of any note occurred while I was out in this attire today, in fact I actually received several compliments.
I talked a lot about these shoes in a previous post (specifically, here), so I won't retread that here (har, har). I really love how this photo turned out! I'm pretty sure I'd die for these heels, ya'll. Just sayin'.
It occurs to me now that I've spent this entire post not actually talking about this outfit. Ooops. Really though, I think the photos can carry that conversation if need be. Suffice to say, I absolutely adore this dress, and I felt like these shoes would pop like crazy with it. I feel like I've achieved a pretty great look here, and as I said in a previous OOTD, I feel like recently I've really started to come into my own sartorially. I guess I sorta just feel like I've finally found my fashion voice, and apparently it's a bright shout in the face of gender conformity. Keep rockin', everyone!