Saturday, January 26, 2013

Baby Spookshow Arrives!


Welcome to our haunted little world, Bridget Amelia! 

So yep, this happened! We've just arrived home with our new bundle of joy. After spending my last blog entry speculating about the interestingness of having a boy child with regards to this blog, naturally we'd have a girl, haha! It's great, though, of course, and my little feminist heart is aflutter. This is going to be so much fun!

Bridget was born on January 24th at 9:47 pm EST, weighing 9 lbs and 7 ounces (sorry, Mrs. Spookshow!)! Everything went very well, and both her and Mrs. Spookshow are in very good health. The delivery was a surreal experience, and I was really surprised at how tranquil and serene it was. It was nothing like the births I've seen in media, and it's an experience I'll never forget. 


Fun fact, Bridget has the most awesome initials ever .... B.A.M. (you didn't think Spookshow was my real last name, did you?)! She'll no doubt thank us later, haha.


Fun fact number two ... Wesley Graves was our boy name of choice had it went the other way, but fate agreed with us that BAM is a way cooler name, haha.


Mrs. Spookshow snapped a somewhat candid photo of me with Bridget, and although it's not my best angle I'm including it here anyhow, haha.


Here's a great shot of Mrs. Spookshow & Bridget! I know this post has no relevance to boys in skirts but I wanted to be sure to share this life experience with my readers here. Next post I will show my OOTD from the delivery day (I wasn't trying to fatshionista it up that day, but I liked my outfit and have a funny story about it so ...), so look for a return to my sartorial adventures soon!

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Spookshow BABY!

As I mentioned in the last OOTD, the arrival of baby Spookshow is imminent! Mrs. Spookshow & I will be going into the hospital on Thursday morning to induce labor if it hasn't happened by then, so next week we should be home with the newest member of the Spookshow family. As such, in my next OOTD I will be a father. So, what do you think ... DadsBlackDress.com? All jokes aside, I think I'm ready for this. Famous last words, much? Haha, anyways, here's a photo of super pregnant Mrs. Spookshow for ya'll to enjoy before we really dig into this post!



We're just as in the dark as everyone else is about this baby's sex, and I'm not gonna lie, it's been really humorous to watch people try to deal with that. "How do we now what color stuff to get?" "Wait, if you don't know the gender why are you buying a dress?" Mrs. Spookshow's stock reply to most of those types of comments has been that skull print is appropriate for everyone, haha. We have bought some amazingly cute clothes for this kid that I'm really looking forward to showing off here, but don't worry, I promise I won't overdo it here on the blog. Mrs. Spookshow says she's really looking forward to being able to take a photo of me in a great dress with our child in a similar yet baby appropriate style for the blog, so you have that to look forward to.

Many. maaany people have asked me what I'm hoping for .. a boy or a girl? My usual response has been a girl, but only because it's perhaps a little less likely that I'll have to go try to throw a football to her in five inch heels than if we had a boy. That's purely a joke response, though, because obviously I don't put any stock into gender stereotypes in my life. I want our child to have the opportunity to be themselves and express themselves however they choose to, so ultimately our answer to the question of what we are hoping for is simply just ... a healthy baby. Secretly though, guys, I'm kinda actually hoping for a boy, and here's why ...

During this pregnancy, it was only natural that I'd do a bit of reading about princess boys. Given the nature of this blog and my general feelings on gender stereotypes, it was inevitable, right? It's been interesting reading what people think whether or not it's appropriate to let little boys wear dresses if they want to, but one comment I read really stuck out to me. Now, the comment in question was actually against letting little boys step outside the preconceived gender boxes, but the bit that stuck with me was this (paraphrased): "Well, if you are as okay with boys wearing dresses as you say you are, then why didn't you just put your son in a dress before he even asked?" CHALLENGE ACCEPTED!

Seriously though, this really struck a cord with me. How can I credibly stand for breaking down the gender stereotypes of our culture if I impose them on my own family? Fortunately, Mrs. Spookshow agreed with this and we decided that no clothing will be off limits for our child, and that until they can inform us of their own opinions of how they'd like to dress, we're going to dress them in any clothes that we like, regardless of gender boundaries. So yes, the skirts and dresses will be worn regardless of the sex of this child, and they will be insanely awesome and cute!

So yeah, I'm kinda hoping for a boy if only because it will be more interesting with regards to this blog, but ultimately I'm really just rooting for a happy, healthy child. I think that regardless of sex, this child is going to have a lot to teach me about social roles and gender boxes, and in turn I hope to be able to teach them about acceptance, confidence, and love. Even though it's sure to be difficult at times, I really think this is going to be a fun experience, and although the focus here on the blog will still remain on me and my fashion, I hope you guys will be interested in hearing about the little Spookshow and how they relate to my sartorial adventures here on His Black Dress!

OOTD: Unite

It appears I'm on a bit of a pink kick, guys. As promised, I'm back today with a new OOTD, likely the finale OOTD before baby Spookshow arrives in the world. Let's get to it!


Dress: Forever 21+
Tights: Hudson City via UKTights.com
Shoes: Madden Girl

Similar to my last OOTD, this is another one of those dresses that I'm usually a bit gun shy about, but pulled the trigger on due to Cyber Monday sales. As I've said here many times, I'm a totally sucker for color block, and lately I've really come to embrace the awesome of the color pink, so I just couldn't resist. I'll admit I've kinda been saving this dress for a bit, as I just really love it, but today is the day, ya'll!


I've talked a little bit about body positivity here on the blog, but I'd like to talk a little more about it here for clarity. You see, in the past I've shied away from body hugging dresses like this one, even though I've seen a lot of them that I've loved. We all have those areas that we'd like to improve, or aspects of our shape that we aren't happy with. For me, I sit pretty firmly in the apple shape department, and it's not something I'm particularly happy about, but it's what I have. I feel like I'm digressing on the point I wanted to make here, so I'm just going to get straight to it. Conventionally, there's a lot of folks who adhere to certain rules or guidelines are what you should or shouldn't wear based on your body shape, in an effort to wear things that are flattering. Well, I'm going to come right out and say that I usually find that term, flattering, to be just a nice way of saying less fat. That's bullshit.

Honestly, I don't want to take away from this OOTD with a rant about fashion rules, so to bring it back to this dress, I know I'm showing some visible belly line (VBL in net slang) here. Now, I could spend a lot of time obsessing over it, and trying to dress in things that hide or flatter (there's that word again) it, but what I've come to realize is that even if I do that ... it's still there. That's where body acceptance comes in, and it's all about accepting your flaws as well as your assets. So, instead of spending so much time worrying about what's flattering, I'll just be over here rocking the hell out of this fantastic dress, okay?


This blog is all about accepting yourself and finding the power to be who you want to be, despite opinions and preconceived notions of what you are "supposed" to be. In my mind, body acceptance is just as important in that mission as breaking gender stereotypes is. I don't consider myself a trendsetter or even a fashionista, I'm just a boy in a dress with a blog trying to inspire others with the confidence to be yourself in a world that often tries to tear that down. Sorry for derailing this OOTD a bit, but I needed to get that off my chest.


I wore this outfit to lunch today with Mrs. Spookshow and some friends of ours. Occasionally, I receive emails or comments asking about the reactions I get in public dressed like this, or more pointedly assuming that I must be brave for wearing this and no doubt facing a sea of negativity. I sometimes worry that the folks who send me those messages must read a lot into my posts when I don't talk about any experiences in public, but the truth is that I always write about any events of note. I know you might think that surely a man wearing something as bold (for lack of a better word) and in your face against the gender stereotypes of our society would face a soul-crushing amount of adversity or negativity should he dare to leave his home in it, but in my experience that hasn't been the case. I could (and probably should) write a post specifically about this topic, so I'll just say here to not assuming I face negativity unless I post about it. Absolutely nothing negative of any note occurred while I was out in this attire today, in fact I actually received several compliments. 


I talked a lot about these shoes in a previous post (specifically, here), so I won't retread that here (har, har). I really love how this photo turned out! I'm pretty sure I'd die for these heels, ya'll. Just sayin'.


It occurs to me now that I've spent this entire post not actually talking about this outfit. Ooops. Really though, I think the photos can carry that conversation if need be. Suffice to say, I absolutely adore this dress, and I felt like these shoes would pop like crazy with it. I feel like I've achieved a pretty great look here, and as I said in a previous OOTD, I feel like recently I've really started to come into my own sartorially. I guess I sorta just feel like I've finally found my fashion voice, and apparently it's a bright shout in the face of gender conformity. Keep rockin', everyone!

Monday, January 21, 2013

OOTD: Own

This OOTD does what it says on the tin, as it features me rocking a totally rad black dress. Let's do this!


Dress: Avenue
Tights: Levante via Uktights.com
Shoes: Target

As I'm writing this post I just gotta say, this dress still really kills me. There's so much going on with it that I absolutely love: the hot pink color block, cowl neck, asymmetric sleeves (one of which is a batwing, gah!), AND the fabric feels incredibly comfortable. Truth be told, I'm often really hesitant of buying dresses with this type of shape, as even though I do espouse body acceptance and general middle fingers to "flattering" and other fashion rulesdrools, I still have some confidence issues with my own body that I have to deal with. Fortunately for me, I came across this dress during a particularly dangerous Cyber Monday shopping spree, and decided I just had to give it a go!


I feel like I've kinda leveled up recently, and really started to make bolder choices than I have in the past (which I'm told is really sayin' something, haha). As a result of that new found sartorial courage, whereas a totally rockin' dress like this might have lingered in my closet for a long while waiting for confidence under the guise of an appropriate "occasion", I just decided to go for it and wear this dress to a meet up with some friends. It felt really great to just do it, and in a strange way I feel even more liberated than before. The support I've received from my readers on the internet has really helped me to really come into my own, sartorially speaking, and for that I'm eternally grateful!


I don't really have anything witty to say here in order to transition to more photos, so I'll just say thank you to everyone who reads my blogs and has supported me!


Have I talked about these shoes here before? I feel like I have, but I really don't remember. Anyhow, they are awesome! The end.


That's it really for this OOTD, guys, and with it I'm finally all caught up here on this blog. Mrs. Spookshow and I are meeting some friends tomorrow afternoon for lunch, and that OOTD will mark my last OOTD here on the blog before we have our baby. Oh my! I don't suppose I've talked about that much here, but yes, Mrs. Spookshow is now quite a bit overdue and we've been scheduled for a birth induction on Thursday morning. I'll try to talk more about my feelings on the very nearly here Spookshow baby in tomorrow's OOTD, so look for that .... tomorrow, haha. Also, don't forget to let me know what you think of this totally killer dress in the comments below! Adios for now, ya'll!

OOTD: Hard Femme

Yet another OOTD, readers! This one is still blowing up the His Black Dress Tumblr, with just over 11,500 likes, reblogs, and comments as of this writing. Whoa! Let's get to it, then!


Jacket: F21+
Top: F21+
Belt: Torrid
Skirt: F21+
Shoes: Madden Girl

As far as I remember, this is the first time I've ever had all the items in an OOTD be from the same store. It wasn't really intentional, but this one is apparently a Forever 21+ lookbook, haha. My goal with this outfit was to go for a very hard femme look ... so a sheer top, studs, leather, and face melting hot pink high heels were the order of the day! Hell yes! 


The inspiration for going with such a hard femme look was the debut of my new (lack of) hair. The orange was fun, but alas, my head was shaved due to a lost bet. Honestly guys, I'm really loving the freedom and ease of being bald, so it's been easy to get used to. As an added bonus, I think it really adds to this look, eh?


Let's go straight from my newly bald head to these painfully awesome heels, ya'll. They kill! Seriously, I'd really been wanting a basic (for lack of a better term) pair of high heels for a long while, and when I saw these shoes from Madden Girl I just absolutely had to have them. My original intention was to go for a black pair, but I just couldn't resist the hot pink! My theory was that if I was going to wear something so socially entrenched in the female realm as a legit pair of high heels, I might as well just go all out with a hot pink suckerpunch to gender conformity! Turns out I love these shoes so much, and they fit me so well and were so comfortable that I went ahead and purchased both the black and royal blue colors as well. Triple combo!


I haven't really said a lot about this outfit in this post, but honestly I think this one speaks for itself. Now it's your turn ... tell me what you think of this sartorial venture in the comments below!

OOTD: Divide

Looks like double shorts posts here on His Black Dress. Let's get to it!


Top: Ashley Stewart
Shorts: *shrug*
Fishnets: F21+
Tights: We Love Colors
Shoes: Torrid

As I mentioned in the last post, when I wear shorts I tend to try to make bolder tights choices. This entire outfit was built around the layered tights, and I kinda love it!


This top was a bit of an impulse buy. It was one of those items that I saw and liked, but wasn't quite sure what I would pair it with. I think it's a fun pairing here, even though I'm not entirely sold on that beige color.


I wore this outfit for one of our game nights with some friends. The tights were highly complimented, but unfortunately the bold shock of colors and patterns didn't manage to daze my opponents and allow me a sweeping victory. Ah, well.

The fishnets I've layered over the opaques here were actually a complete fluke. See, when I purchased them, they were actually listed as fishnet thigh high socks. I thought they might be fun to try to layer over some tights with a dress, but when they arrived at my door it turned out they were actually tights. That honestly worked out better in the end, and I really dig layering them over other tights for a fun look.



That's it for this one, folks. I hope you enjoyed this OOTD, which unexpectedly winds up being my last OOTD with hair! Uh, oh. As always, let me know what you thought of this outfit in the comments below!

OOTD: Ebb

Hey, everyone! I know I've been away for a little bit, but I'm back now! I've had a pretty busy month preparing the house for baby Spookshow, and in the process managed to fall into a bit of a fashion funk. As a consequence, I haven't felt inspired to write out any OOTD posts here on this blog, instead opting to quickly post my OOTDs up on Tumblr. If you follow my His Black Dress Tumblr, chances are you've seen some of the OOTDs I'll be playing catch up with here (and if you don't .... shame .... SHAAAAAME!). Let's get into it, guys!


Top: Avenue
Shorts: F21+
Tights: Evans US
Shoes: Torrid

I think this is a pretty fun casual look. It's no secret that I'm a big fan of dresses & skirts, but sometimes it's just a shorts day, you know? I like to be a bit more adventurous with my tights selection when I wear shorts, just to add some extra punch!


The print on this top is pretty awesome, it sort of reminds me of Matrix code. It manages to combine some of my favorite colors and features some cool geometric shapes. Win!


I wanted to play with the geometricness of the top by wearing these chevron tights. I feel like it's sort of a bold choice, but I think it really works.


These tights actually wound up being much too big, and they spent the day making a beeline for my awesome shoes (who can blame them though, eh? haha!), but I liked the style so much that I ordered them in a smaller size. I can't remember if I've featured these shoes on the blog yet, but in any case lets just take a moment to acknowledge how awesome they are. I generally dislike flat shoes, so it takes some awesome details to sell me. These particular shoes didn't have to work to hard on that sell, haha. I've been wearing them a lot, honestly.


I've got a few more posts to catch up on, so that's all for this one today. Hope you enjoyed it! Let me know what you think in the comments below!