Friday, November 11, 2011

Everyone Loves a Boy in a Dress

Okay, so I'm pretty addicted to watching traffic sources on this blog. Maybe not as addicted as I am to shoe shopping, but close, ha! It's just really interesting to me to see how people find their way here. This post is inspired by the most common search phrase that brings traffic to the blog ...

Boys in dresses. Specifically, this boy in a dress. As of this writing, I own seven dresses. It's probably silly, but that's a bit exciting for me since it means I could wear a dress a day for a week. Anyways, for this post, I'm going to showcase my three favorite dresses, and talk a little bit about them.

Before we dive in, I'd like to share some of my thoughts and feelings about dresses. For as long as I can remember, I've always been fascinated by them. There's just something so aesthetically pleasing to me about the shape and movement of a dress. My favorite thing about a dress, though, is the feeling of wearing one. 

For a large part of my life I was uncomfortable with my body, and as a result of this I nearly always wore pants. The feeling of a pair of pants digging into my waist uncomfortably (to say nothing of being uncomfortable elsewhere) was a feeling that I long thought I would have to experience for the rest of my life. It eventually irritated me so that I just couldn't take it anymore. Skirts alleviate most of those problems, however there is still that feeling of constantly having something digging in around my waist. Even though it often isn't as bad as a pair of pants might be, it's still a bit of an annoyance to me. 

Thus, enter the dress. In short, dresses offer reprieve from all of those issues, and they feel incredibly freeing. Combined with my love for their look, well, it's really a no brainer for me then. I'm a man, and I love dresses!

So, without further adieu, let's have a look at my top three favorite dresses!

Dress #3: Viking Purple Knit Dress


I loved this dress from the moment I saw it at Target. However, I initially put off buying it because I still wasn't sure about dresses for my body. I'm so glad that I did eventually buy it, as it's quickly become one of my favorites. The color of this dress is amazing, it's really the perfect purple! My favorite thing about this dress, however, is the versatility I feel it has. While I think it looks okay on its own, this dress really shines when I pair it with a jacket or other top, as the purple is strong enough to still shine through for a great pop of color.

Dress #2: Grey Shirtdress

This is the second dress I ever purchased. I think that shirtdresses are an easy choice for a guy, as it can often look pretty similar to wearing a button up shirt with a skirt or kilt, a style many skirt wearing men choose. I really like the casual feeling of this dress. I chose this dress as my second favorite because I feel it still presents a largely masculine look. This isn't really important to me, as I tend to not worry much about labels, but that aspect of this dress means that I could see this look being more easily adopted by men than some other dresses. Plus, I think I look pretty good in this dress.

Finally, that brings us to my number one favorite dress, which should be no surprise to my fans (do I have fans? Supporters maybe?)

Dress #1: Moto Dress

This dress was easily my number one choice. In addition to being my first dress, it's also my most featured dress on Flickr. This dress perfectly captures my style, and I feel that it really speaks about who I am. It's got great attitude and edge, and just feels rockin'! This dress is so comfortable, and I love the way that it moves. Truth is, I could probably go on and on about this dress. 

There is one reason above all, however, why I love this dress so. This is the dress that gave me my confidence. You see, this dress was the first dress or skirt I wore that was above knee, and I was very self conscious about that. I worried that it would look silly, that maybe it was too much leg for a guy to show like that. Then I realized, I may be a man but I can still have damn sexy legs, so why shouldn't I show them?! Although it took me a while to feel confident in this dress, once that happened it was like the floodgates were opened. This dress made me realize that it's okay for me to feel attractive, in fact that's what confidence in fashion is all about! 

This dress has been a bit of a looking glass, through which I've managed to accept and love my body for everything that it is, and that's why the moto dress is my favorite dress.

I hope you've enjoyed reading this post as much as I've enjoyed writing it. 

As always, you can check out my most recent outfit photos on Flickr:

Please feel free to comment below, as I'd really like to see more activity on the blog in that regard. It doesn't matter if you love it or hate it, I want to know your thoughts! 


  1. Enjoying your posts and the outfits. Really like the red boots with the Moto dress!

    1. Thank you! Recently, I've been trying to branch out and wear more color shoes. Those red boots have been really fun! Glad you are enjoying the blog, Juznie!

  2. welshcrossdresserNovember 16, 2011

    I want those black wedges!

    1. Haha, they are a lot of fun! Thanks!

  3. Those blackish gray wedges are cute! I absolutely love your shirt dress as well. Where did u get them from? I am. Plus size girl and wear a size in 12 when it comes to shoes so I'm pretty sure u can relate to me. U have a great style and I am also gonna subscribe to ur channel. My name is KiaReviewThis

    1. Thank you so much, Kia! The shoes came from I can't remember where I got the dress, but it's DKNY Jeans brand and I know I've seen them around often. I absolutely relate when it comes to shoes! I often have a bit of trouble finding the right fit. Thank you for the compliments and for the sub on my YT channel! I really appreciate it!

  4. you seem really open about discussing your body in clothes, so here said that you don't like the feeling of something digging into your waist, but then you wear tights with all of your dresses. I have that same dislike of tight waistbands (being of the thick-waisted variety) and wonder how you are coping with tights/pantyhose, cause I love how they look, but hate how they feel - tight in the waist and sometimes slipping down or sagging in the crotch. Also, if I don't wear tights or some kind of Spanks type undergarment, my thighs rub together and cause chaffing if I do any amount of walking or especially if it's warm outside. In addition, I am wondering how comfortable you are finding heels, wedges, etc. AAANNNDDD, if you are feeling uncomfortable about how dresses fit you in the chest and you feel like you have moobs, then have you considered trying a sports bra or reducer bra? Or why not bite the bullet and go for a chest enhancing push up?

    1. Ha, I wondered if anyone would ask me this. I realized it seemed ironic as I wrote it, but here is the answer. I pretty much only wear sheer to waist tights, not control tops, and to me there is a huge difference between that and, say, a pair of jeans with a tight belt. It took me years to find tights that were actually totally comfortable, and I've tried many, many brands. The best advice I can give on comfortable tights is just to try different brands and be completely honest with sizing (and it's better to error on the side of bigger, I think). I wear Kunert satin look 20 tights, and although they are about $19.00 a pair, and I have to order them from the UK, they are insanely comfortable for me and I get a lot of wears out of them before getting any snags.

      Most of the time I find heels very comfortable, actually. I don't know if it's just the shape of my feet or what, but I often find a pair of heels more comfortable than flats. However, there are some shoes I have that can be less than comfortable to walk in all day.

      I have considered wearing some type of chest compression garment, actually, but I have concerns about comfort in that regard. I've thought about trying a sports bra, though I'm unsure if Mrs. Spookshow would like that very much, ha! I definitely don't want to play up my chest size, though. Anyhow, it's just a feature that I've been learning to deal with. I suspect we all have that one thing about our bodies that we don't like. For me, it's that.

      Thanks for taking the time to comment here, Creatifiny. I apreciate it!

  5. misadventureFebruary 23, 2012

    This blog was such an interesting boring-work-day internet find! I actually rarely read blogs, but someone posted a link to it on their FB, and being a very slow work day, I clicked - and glad I did! Its definatley an unusual concept (forgive me here - I'm from a small Australian city and not many are as open as you are about fashion freedom).

    I noticed that you mentioned that comfort was really important to you, and that you had some concerns about your shape, learning this I was wondering if you had tried kimono style or wrap dresses? I didn't see any on your site, but I may have missed it. I'd reckon that if you made the wrap part cross over up higher up on your chest, over the 'moob' or empire line area, you would really downplay the chest (my thing is my muffin top, ugh!). They are very comfortable and super stylish, and so versatile!

    It may not be for you, just musings from one fashion lover to another!

    1. I'm glad you find the blog entertaining!

      I've not tried any kimonos or wrap dresses, yet. Another reader here has recommended them as well, so it's definitely on the radar. I'll have to look through our massive collection of patterns and see if Mrs. Spookshow can work something up for me.

      Thank you for the tips, I always appreciate that!